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Can you freely offer apologies, or will you apologize only if you were proven completely, utterly wrong?

Rule #8 Say I’m Sorry

It can be very difficult to admit our contribution to a conflict. If we are honest, we will admit that we too have things for which we should repent. Each of us are imperfect individuals trying to live in community, and we are bound to mess it up sometimes. We can hurt each other without even being aware of what we are doing. 

Apologizing requires humility, and apology cannot happen when we refuse to admit any portion of blame.

Sometimes we have much that needs confessing and at other times our contribution is more by omission. Sometimes all we can say is,”I am so sorry that you my comment hurt you” or “I am so sorry that I didn’t notice how this was impacting you.”

Prov. 28:13 He who conceals his sin does not prosper, but whoever confesses them and renounces them finds mercy.

Apologizing jumpstarts the important work of reconciliation. It shows the other person that we care about them and our relationship more than we care about winning.

Can we humble ourselves and confess our short-comings?


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