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Rule #6: Take It Down.

Maintaining a non-anxious presence in the midst of conflict is very challenging. It is easy to escalate arguments and increase the volume and the intensity of emotion. when pressured, it is a natural response to get defensive. We are very self protective creatures! But escalating anger become a very destructive cycle. It takes a very intentional step to redirect the cycle toward peace.  Who has the courage to be the hero and take the steps toward peace?

Proverbs 15:1 -- A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

We should work to lower the volume, not escalate the problem.  When we are in the midst of conflict it is challenging to keep the cooler head and make the effort to cool down the conflict. When we can step outside of the emotion of the moment and look at the situation from another’s point of view, we begin the journey of empathy. Only then will we approach reconciliation which is so much sweeter than winning an argument.

Proverbs 15:18 -- A hot tempered man stirs up dissention, but a patient man calms a quarrel.

Sometimes we just need to hit the pause button on an argument. Stopping and taking a breath and listening instead of responding are important skills to learn. Are you able to take the high road and become the hero in your relationship?


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